Ivanka Trump’s new book attempts to detail the life and struggle of working moms and, not surprisingly, she completely misses the mark.
She laments the importance of sharing anecdotes about being covered in pureed avocado in the morning or sharing photos of her with a messy pony tail playing in the dirt with her kids. For many working moms, these “anecdotes” are luxuries they can’t afford – food for their children or time to play in garden with their children.
But, the one thing she misses the most? The real struggles of working moms.
“During extremely high-capacity times, like during the campaign, I went into survival mode: I worked and I was with my family; I didn’t do much else. Honestly, I wasn’t treating myself to a massage or making much time for self-care. I wish I could have awoken early to meditate for twenty minutes …”
Sorry, Ivanka, this is not survival mode. Not even close.
For a working mom, “survival mode” is not skipping a massage or meditation.
Survival Mode is …
Choosing between putting food on the table and being able to afford life saving medicine.
Going back to work at 1, 2, 3, 4, etc. weeks postpartum because you cannot afford leave.
Living every day terrified of a call from daycare that your child is sick because you may lose your job if you miss one more day.
Getting to the end of the month and not making ends meet.
Skipping meals so your child can get the uniform, shoes, etc. they need (thank you Stephanie).
Crying yourself to sleep every night because you live in fear that you are not enough for your child.
Shielding hate, judgment and criticism from those on the outside looking in.
Watching your child cry in pain because the life saving medicine is wrecking their body. Or, watching this knowing your worry is split between your child’s pain and the bills you know are coming.
So, sorry, Ivanka Trump, you may be a working mom, but you don’t know the first thing about being a working mom in survival mode.